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Laundry Day

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Me, emptying The Boy’s laundry basket: “Why are there so many clothes in here? I just emptied this two days ago.”

The Boy: “I like to change my clothes when I get home from school.”

Me: “So you take off sweatpants & a t-shirt & put on sweatpants & a t-shirt?”

The Boy: “Yeah. I don’t want to smell like chalk & despair & crushed dreams.”

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They’ll Both Kill You

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The Boy has a phone. He has to walk home by himself when he starts 6th grade & I want him to be able to check in with me. Plus, it’s easier to get him to finish his chores if I can text him my demands.

The following are actual texts from The Boy about some summer school work he has to finish…

The Boy: “Mom I can’t find my meth books! Have you seen them?”

The Boy: “Sorry math. Auto correct. Very different. One will kill you. The other is an illegal street drug.”

How most of my house feels about math.

How most of my house feels about math.

He’s Onto Me

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My job requires working weekends so I have a day off during the week. A fact which apparently boggles The Boy’s mind.

The Boy: “Sometimes I think you just send us to school so you can enjoy your day off.”

Me: “That’s right. I can’t wait for you to get out of this car so I can go home & do laundry & wash dishes & clean the bathrooms! Yippee!!”

The Boy: “I’m sensing sarcasm.”

President of the Public School System

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The Superintendent of The Kids’ school system is notorious for not cancelling or delaying school during bad weather. One particularly snowy day, as I was driving them to school, I was muttering under my breath about what a lousy superintendent I thought he was.

The Boy: “This is why I voted for Romney.”

Keep That Brain Well-Rested

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I snuck The Girl out of school early yesterday to go see The Hunger Games. She felt guilty so I explained that we all need a mental health day sometimes. After she tried to explain the idea to her brother he ran into the kitchen demanding: “When do I get a Rest Your Brain Day?”

MomDay Monday – School Daze

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Every school has its issues.

Issues with teachers. Issues with other parents. Miscommunication. Problems with other students.

Every school.

There’s no getting around it. We’re all human. We all have failings. And a school is, after all, made up of us imperfect humans.

But at what point does a school have so many issues it becomes dysfunctional?

Is it when the faculty talks out of turn to your child about their parents’ divorce?

Or perhaps it’s when other parents refuse to accept that their child is the school bully & consistently puts the blame for their child’s behavior on the very kids he’s bullying.

Is it when there are arbitrary punishments meted out at whim? One day a behavior is punishable by making the child sit out of recess. The next day, the same behavior is overlooked. One day, uniform infractions are barely mentioned. The next day, a student loses privileges for wearing the wrong uniform piece.

Perhaps….

But I believe it’s when a school & its principal are so afraid of criticism that they close off lines of communication to keep others from hearing it.

I believe it’s when a principal is more concerned with who saw a comment on the school Facebook page than she is with addressing the issues brought to her attention.

I believe it is when a student receives retaliation for the actions of their parent.

And I believe it is when anti-bullying rallies are held for the students but parents & staff are seemingly the biggest offenders.

The Kids attend a private, Catholic school. They have been there since they were each 3 years old, starting in the youngest Pre-K group. They have known their classmates for most of their lives & we have made good friends with some of the families of these kids. When The Ex & I decided to divorce, we quietly told The Kids’ teachers so they were aware of the situation at home & on the lookout for any kind of behavioral issues that might occur because of it. This school had an opportunity to show The Kids an example of what it means to be a Christian & support my children during a particularly tough time.

They failed.

Within weeks, it seemed as if everyone knew what was happening in our family. The rumor mill was in full force until people I hardly knew & rarely spoke to had an opinion on my divorce & The Kids’ reaction to it. I had been blind to the dysfunction in the past, believing my kids were in the best possible place for the best possible education. There were two things I hoped to keep consistent throughout the divorce as the kids lives were being uprooted. Their school & their house. I was determined to keep them in that school & in the house they had been in for the past 4 years even if it meant having to ask my dad for money. But little by little, my eyes were opened & I saw that there were issues with this school far beyond anything I ever realized. There certainly have been people on the faculty as well as other parents who have been more than supportive & I can’t thank those people enough for the kindness & support they’ve shown, especially to The Kids. But they have unfortunately been too few & too far between. It is school dysfunction at its best. Or worst.

I’ve stopped my insistence that The Kids stay in that school. It’s part of my letting go. And it’s okay. I am aware that any school will have issues, dysfunction, intolerant people & parents who violate the school drop off & pick up rules. At this point, I’m willing to take my chances.

But I’m keeping the house.