Monthly Archives: October 2012

MomDay Monday – Needy Bitch


Ever have one of those times where you know something is off but you can’t put your finger on what it is? So then you just over think it & come up with some weird conclusions that have nothing to do with reality?



We’ve all done it.

I try not to be needy although there are those among you who I’m allowed to be needy around. The KK – my big sister. The Hyde – my former college roommate and favorite ass kicker. The Joan – although she’ll just tell me that I need to stop drinking & “go to a meeting.” But for everyone else, I try to keep the neediness down & let things roll. It’s really hard to do sometimes.

I’m still learning how to let go & let things happen as they will. But sometimes, when I care about something a lot, I can fall into that routine of over thinking & coming to conclusions not based on reality. And sometimes, I have to give in to it & ask. Ask the other person if what I’m thinking is true. As a friend said, “Put on your big girl pants & take the world one ass kick at a time.” In other words, suck it up, make the call & get the answers you need. (ActuallyI don’t really know what that whole ‘big girl pants/ass kick’ thing means, but it sounded good.)

Will the other person think you’re crazy? Maybe. Okay – probably. Will you get the answers you want? Absolutely not. But you’ll get the answers you need.

So where does this temporary neediness come from? We are all a product of our past. Let’s face it – if your past involves a roller coaster, you’re going to brace yourself for a roller coaster. You’ll see dizzying heights & plunging lows where there aren’t any. But once you’re on something more like a Ferris wheel – slow & steady but when you get to the top, it’s breathtaking you can’t look at it like it’s a roller coaster. (Not my best analogy but it’s late & I’ve had a long day.) What I’m trying to say is that we can’t look at the present & expect it to be the same as the past. We need to judge each situation on its own merits & try our hardest to not let the those past roller coasters take us for a ride.

It’s not easy. But it’s got to be done.

And since I’ve never really been a fan of roller coasters, I’ll take two tickets for the Ferris wheel, please.


Not the Mommy


The Boy, after I finished talking to a friend at school pick-up & got into the car: “Why do you always have to jibber-jabber wherever we go?”

Me: “It’s a Mom thing. You’ll understand when you’re a Mom.”

The Boy: “What?! I’m not going to be a Mom. I’ll be a Dad.”

The Girl: “Then you’ll just stand around & drink beer with other men.”

What a Boy Wants


The Boy: “Kaylee’s my math partner.”

The Girl: “Don’t you like her?”

The Boy: “Yeah, I LIKE like her.”

The Girl: “Why?”

The Boy: “Well, she’s nice, she’s funny & she has curly hair. She’s everything I always wanted in a girl.”